If you’re feeling like the universe has put your love life on hold – it’s time to take matters into your own hands. Or rather, your own energy.

Finding your dream partner isn’t about obsessively swiping on dating apps or hoping for a fateful encounter at your local cafe. It’s about aligning your energy with the love you truly desire and getting crystal clear about who you want to attract. Spoiler: we’re talking about manifestation, and yes, it can help the universe deliver the partner you’ve been dreaming of.

Sound woo-woo? Just a little. But it works, and here’s how.

THE POWER OF MANIFESTATION

We’re not just theorising here – this is speaking from experience. Two of the Oskaya girlies successfully brought their dream partners into their lives using a method we like to call "man-ifestation." And if you’re on the same journey to love, you’re about to get the lowdown on how to make it happen for you, too.

Before we jump in, it’s important to note that this process is all-inclusive. Our queer friends can swap out "man-ifestation" for "woman-ifestation"—the magic works the same regardless of gender. What matters is the intention and the energy you bring.

Manifestation is the practice of bringing something you desire into your life through focused thought, intention, and action. It’s rooted in the principle that your thoughts and emotions create your reality. When you visualise your desires clearly and truly believe they’re possible, you’re sending energetic signals out into the universe. And those signals start attracting opportunities, situations and people that align with what you want.

“Summoning up a true love spell called Amas Veritas. He can flip pancakes in the air. He'll be marvelously kind. And his favourite shape will be a star. And he'll have one green eye and one blue.”
–Sally Owens, Practical Magic

Ready to bring in your dream partner? All you need is a pen, a journal (or piece of paper) and a comfortable space where you can be alone with your thoughts. There’s something romantic about writing it down, don’t you think? We like to think it connects you with the process more deeply than typing on a phone or computer.

HOW TO MAN-IFEST

Gather your pen and paper. You might like to write on a loose piece of paper and carry it around in your wallet, or hide it away in your journal. Whichever feels better for you. Depending on where you are, it pays to get in the mood (if you will). Light a candle or put some calming music on.

Bonus tip: Manifestations are extra powerful when done on a full moon.

Before you dive into what you want in a partner, it’s important to take a moment to reflect on yourself. Who are you? What are your values, and what kind of life do you lead? Knowing this will help you understand what kind of energy you want your partner to bring into your life. Are you seeking balance? Someone to complement or challenge you in certain areas?

Maybe you’re a go-getter who thrives on spontaneity but lacks stability – so you’re looking for someone who can ground you. Or perhaps you’re seeking a partner who shares your ambition and can match your drive. Understanding yourself is step one in attracting the right person.

The key is aligning your mindset and actions with the love you want to receive. Begin to list out the qualities, values, features, traits and physical characteristics of your ideal partner. What do they look like? How do they make you feel? When do you meet them? What is their sense of humour like? Getting super specific with your manifestations helps you to visualise really clearly what it is you’re trying to call in.

Don’t censor yourself or worry you’re asking for too much. Nobody will ever read this but you, get honest with yourself and don’t be afraid to ask for it all. You deserve the world!

Here are some thought starters to get you going:

Physical Traits

This is often where people start. While physical attraction isn’t the be-all and end-all of a relationship, it’s okay to have preferences! Get as detailed as you’d like here, and don’t be afraid to be specific.

• Hair: What colour hair do they have? Is it curly or straight? Long or short?
• Eyes: What colour are their eyes? Maybe one green, one blue like in Practical Magic?
• Build: Are they athletic? Slim? Muscular? Or do you prefer someone with a soft, cuddly body?
• Style: How do they dress? Do they have a laid-back, casual look? Or are they more stylish and put-together? Maybe they have a quirky or vintage flair that makes them stand out.
• Smell: What’s their signature scent? Do they wear cologne, or do you imagine them smelling like fresh laundry or the outdoors?

Personality

The core of any good relationship lies in personality compatibility. This section should focus on the traits that make your partner someone you enjoy being around.

• Sense of humour: Are they laugh-out-loud funny? Do they have a dry wit, or are they more on the serious side?
• Intelligence: How intellectual are they? Do they have a sharp, curious mind? Are they interested in learning new things or deep conversations?
• Kindness: How do they treat others? Do they go out of their way to help? Are they patient, compassionate, and empathetic?
• Energy level: Are they high-energy and adventurous, or more laid-back and calm?

Emotional Traits

Emotional compatibility is essential for a fulfilling partnership. Reflect on how you want to feel around this person and what kind of emotional support you seek.

• Communication: How well do they communicate? Are they open and honest, able to express their thoughts and feelings clearly? Do they actively listen to you?
• Empathy: Are they emotionally intuitive? Do they easily understand how others are feeling and respond with compassion?
• Emotional maturity: How do they handle conflict? Are they quick to anger or calm under pressure? Do they take responsibility for their emotions?
• Vulnerability: Are they able to be vulnerable with you and open up about their fears, dreams, and insecurities? Can you build deep emotional trust with them?
• Listening: Can they truly listen when you’re having a tough day? Do they offer advice or just a shoulder to cry on when you need it?

Spiritual & Mental Connection

Think about your spiritual and mental connection with your partner. How do you grow together?

• Beliefs: Are they spiritual or religious? Do they share the same faith or values as you? Maybe they’re deeply connected to the universe.
• Growth mindset: Are they open to self-improvement and personal growth? Do they value continuous learning and self-discovery?
• Mental stimulation: Can you have deep, meaningful conversations with them? Do they challenge you intellectually, sparking new ideas and perspectives?
• Supportive energy: Do they motivate you to become your best self? Are they a source of inspiration and encouragement in your life?

Lifestyle & Daily Life

Manifesting a partner is about finding someone whose lifestyle aligns with yours. What does their everyday life look like? How do they spend their time?

• Work-life balance: Are they career-focused or more relaxed about their job? Do they prioritise family and personal life, or are they all about their work?
• Hobbies: Do they spend Sundays making sourdough, playing Dungeons & Dragons, or binge-watching true crime documentaries? Maybe they’re a part-time DJ or love thrifting like you do.
• Health & wellness: How do they take care of themselves? Are they physically active, interested in fitness, or into mindfulness and meditation? Do they eat healthy or indulge in treats?
• Financial goals: Are they financially responsible? What’s their attitude towards saving, spending, and building a future together?

Family Dynamic

Consider what kind of family life you want. How do they interact with their family, and what role do you want them to play in yours?

• Family orientation: Are they close to their family? Do they want to start a family of their own? How do they treat their parents and siblings? What kind of relationship do you want with their family?
• Parenting style: If you plan to have children, how do they approach parenting? Are they strict, lenient, or somewhere in between? Do they share your values about raising kids?

Career & Ambition

Your partner’s career and ambition can impact your relationship in many ways, from financial stability to daily schedules.

• Career goals: What kind of work do they do? Are they passionate about their career or more focused on work-life balance?
• Ambition level: Are they driven and goal-oriented, or do they prefer a more laid-back approach to life? How do their career aspirations align with your goals for the future?
• Work habits: Do they work long hours, travel for work, or have a more flexible schedule? How does this fit into the dynamics of your relationship?

Try to write at least 3 pages and don’t stop until you get it all out.

Now that you’ve outlined your ideal partner, take a moment to close your eyes and visualise them. Picture how they look, how they sound, and how they make you feel. What are you doing together? Going on an adventurous hike? Cooking a cozy dinner at home? The more you can visualise your life together, the stronger the energy you’re sending out to the universe.

Like with any form of manifesting, it requires you to take aligned action. Aligned action is like a dance with the universe. It’s taking purposeful steps and making intentional decisions that align with your desires and values. For instance, if your perfect match takes great care of their physical health, you might have better luck meeting them at the local gym rather than at a bar at 1 a.m. in the morning. Consider your values and your goals and act accordingly. Some suggestions:

• Get on dating apps if that’s your thing.
• Join a (dare we say it) run club.
• Ask your friends and family if they know anyone who’d be a good match for you.
• Say no to dating anyone who doesn’t share the values which you hold dear.
• Hold firm on your boundaries and don’t settle for anything less than what you’ve written down.

Tell yourself that this person is out there and work on really truly believing in your heart of hearts that they are out there looking for you too. You are worthy of love and adoration, and there is someone out there who will cherish, support, care and love you in all the ways your heart desires. It all might sound a bit woo-woo, but we’re here for it.

“I dream of a love that even time will lie down and be still for”.
– Sally Owens, Practical Magic

By taking these steps, you’ll align yourself with the energy of love and call in the partner you’ve been dreaming of. It’s not magic, but it sure feels like it when it happens.